[Tools] The Happily Ever After Handbook – Ch. 3

It’s real, H.E.A.s happen (BELIEVE IN THEM). Cheering for other’s H.E.A.s accelerates yours happening to YOU (SUPPORT THEM). 

“I believe Tanya! And I encourage people whose good has found them…”

Ahh, but do you CLAIM the miracles (Happily Ever Afters) sent to YOU?

Everyone does this backwards. They are only on board once the miracle has happened and is “done and dusted” as my mate says. That’s too late! 

Today we’ll learn WHY you must CLAIM your Miracle or HEA (same thing).

Next week I’ll teach you HOW to claim your Happily Ever After 😊 It’s a long post because you struggle with this. 

Notice When a Miracle BEGINS, Not ENDS

Do you know when people realize they are were happy? AFTER HAPPINESS STOPS.

Do you know when people call something a miracle? AFTER IT HAS FULLY COMPLETED.

Problem? You can mess up a miracle just like you can mess up a H.E.A.

The most common way you mess up your H.E.A. is to NOT RECOGNIZE it as it begins. You have to claim your miracle has commenced. You have to say, holy cow dung, this is it! It’s starting! It’s mine! 

Why do you have to notice? Because H.E.A. recognition MOTIVATES you to go ALL IN to do whatever lesson you have been avoiding. If you do that work, your H.E.A. continues. If not, it fizzles.

The whole point of a H.E.A. is not to delight you (sorry Pumpkin!) it’s to GROW you! It’s to unite you with the person, place or thing that will cause you to shift in favor of expansion, love and more-ness. If you are unwilling to DO that, you don’t get to keep one.

People who are in the “I’ll believe it when I see it” camp get FEWER miracles and H.E.A.s. because they doubt it all the way through. Their doubt tells them not to risk, not to invest, not to go all in. 

If you are only willing to cheer for the parting of the Red Sea after it’s parted and everyone you like is safe – you are too late.

Want to hit Jedi level? Notice, cheer for and change position for your miracle BEFORE it begins. That is deep faith and it’s tricky. Happily, that level is not required here. Simultaneous recognition or just as things begin will work just fine. 

Miracles & Happily Ever Afters Start Like Newborns

We love CERTAINTY. And Alphas love CONTROL. That’s why we miss out on soo many H.E.A.s!

A H.E.A. has no certainty and you don’t have control. (See the lessons just in THAT!) Here’s the harsh truth – we smother our miracles. We stamp them out like a flower growing somewhere we didn’t PUT it.

We don’t recognize it’s a flower and we step on it. We don’t recognize that something amazing is being born and that means it’s small and fragile and needs OUR help. 

“Wait..What the H?! Tanya, did you just tell me that a miracle requires US to do stuff??” Uh, YES!

God and free will remember? You claiming that something special just began is the first part of your work. Your willingness to DO your avoided lesson is the second half. 

Yes, you will doubt your true mate!  Why doesn’t anyone tell us this? H.E.A. doesn’t mean certainty, it means YOU CLAIM WHAT YOU RECOGNIZE.  If you claim this is a H.E.A., you will treat those doubts like invaders and unwelcome viruses. You starve them of your attention and belief which can change your outcome. 

Does that mean every time you call something a H.E.A. it is? Nope. But here is the secret: 

If you THINK it is, you will go all in and end up learning what you were supposed to learn, so when it is FINALLY your real H.E.A., you are ready.

Read that again. NO H.E.A. is a total false alarm! They all serve a purpose (usually to get you off your butt and in motion doing what you were avoiding). 

Want extra credit? Read what I’ve taught about Expectations here. Your expectations at the START that something IS a H.E.A., influences your outcome. 

Stop being a scaredy-cat and claim that H.E.A. as it starts to give it the best chance of continuing…

In Joy,