[Balance] The Double Edged Sword #1 – Alphas are PLANNERS

The Double Edged Sword: Learn the Traits of an Alpha


People ask me all the time to tell them MORE about Alphas. Here we go! This month we’re talking about some of the strongest Alpha traits and how they shoot us in the foot.


You probably heard the proverb that your greatest strength is also your greatest weakness – true!


This week, let’s look at you Alpha as the PLANNER.


Missed last month? The Anatomy of Opportunity #4 – Receive One

(links to entire Opportunity series are in #4)



Super Power Trait: Planning


Skill Set: The ability to take abstract things make them concrete, put them on a schedule and then crack ALL the whips to make it happen in real life.


Weakness: Your high planning skills tend to make you rigid. The better you are at planning, the more you like to use your “planning skills”.  That makes you less available for spontaneity and things that are not controlled by you.


Superpower planning makes you naturally suspicious of all things that are not planned.


Big fat giant problem with that?


Last I checked God and the Universe didn’t have a board meeting, invite you and SHARE their plans! Almost all the amazing things that have happened in your life, happened kind of out of the blue right? 


If you are resistant to things happening outside of your own control – you are asking for only what YOU can personally deliver to yourself and excluding yourself from Grace, abundance, serendipity and miracles.


Write this down: Miracles are never planned.


Whenever you see the word “control” or feel yourself needing to control something pause.  Alphas use the term planning when often we MEAN control. “I want to plan for that…” is “I want to control that…”


Ask yourself this question-

What do I fear will happen, if I am not in control of this?


Control is always about fear. You’re afraid that if you don’t make sure you get, you won’t get. Yes, I know that was your experience. But do you want your history to dictate your future?


You can be a healthy planner. Healthy planners plan what needs to be planned and let the rest go.  When you are in balance, you don’t exert control to try to plan things beyond a certain point.


Alphas are so good at planning, that they cannot detect the BALANCE point alone. Basically, your set point for “what I should beplanning” is way too high. You need an Alpha coach to help you start seeing the points where you have left planning and entered controlling. Or you can just listen to the complaints of those around you!



The Unknown

One of my Alphas has been blowing up my phone because I just helped her attract a dream 6 figure job SHE NEVER APPLIED FOR. 🙂


She was GIFTED the opportunity. Yep, right out of last week’s Anatomy of Opportunity. She has done the work to become attractive to gift givers by having a great track record, being coachable (I love her) and providing the referral source a chance to feel like a hero. Final part? She made herself willing to STRETCH her comfort for her next step.


She is a MASTER PLANNER. Our work is to get her to loosen those reins, while getting VERY clear about what she wants to create. We did that and opportunity found her.


Key? What she wasn’t PLANNING, held her BIG blessing! We have been taught to FEAR the unknown. Resist change and always fight to stay in control.


What if the key to life was SURRENDER? (Hint: It is.)


Letting go and letting yourself be guided, led, gifted and generally hooked up.


When you can surrender the need to plan everything, you make room for the unknown where magic comes into play. Alphas even tell God what to do! LOL. Ease off the need to be in charge and soften your memory of the past.


Determine what is yours and what is not and leave room for the unknown to HELP you not hurt you.


In Joy,




P.S  Want me as your coach? Hit reply and ask. You don’t know if it will work. It’s UNKNOWN!! LOL. Don’t plan it. Just ASK. Private and group spots 🙂


P.S. S Flying to AUSTRALIA tomorrow! I’ll be in the land down under for almost 3 weeks. Friday’s Motivating Question will either be late or early, as I’ll be on a 16 hour flight out of LAX headed to Melbourne during normal broadcast time. I’ll travel for 27 hours plus a 13.5 hr time difference. Not PLANNING it too hard!!


I backpacked the outback on my last Aussie visit (note: that was freakin’ hard!) This is an indoors visit. Kangaroo & emuland here I come!


Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with. 


She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success. 


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