[Blocks] Extensions: How the 3rd “Ex Energy” Kills Confidence

Extensions – How Many Have YOU Asked For this Month?


Irony that I am drafting the Extensions coaching late at night?? No worries. I never allow myself any Ex energy when it comes to YOUR coaching posts.


We are in Week 3 of “Ex Energy: Excuses, Extensions and Explanations. Are you spotting more of this in your world?


Prior coaching posts – Do you want Trust or Excuses? and How Do EXCEPTIONS Ruin Your Life? 



Extensions Destroy Discipline


What You are Doing: Asking to turn in your work after the original deadline. Most usually it is requested right at (or worse) after the deadline.


Harm It Causes: Loss of Growth.

You don’t change and grow because you aren’t disciplined enough to push to deliver the “new” thing. Those around you stay stuck where they are and you are enabling. And you never see what you could do if you stretched.



What It Attracts Energetically: Unmotivated People.


People who fight change. Situations full of last minute chaos and disorder. Anxiety. Multiplies victims to keep asking and rescuers to keep granting extensions. Disrespect others time and someone must disrespect yours.


What You Get When You Stop: Confidence. It gives you a Sense of Power knowing you WILL hit your milestone no matter what. That grows your confidence. When you are the being that person, others lean into their confidence of you, resulting in more opportunities and power.




Can we all agree that we LIKE extensions when they are given to us? And hate them when they are imposed on us?


The Universe is consistent and being of two minds on an issue is not allowed to prosper anywhere (not even in politics, despite appearances).


Here’s 3 Reasons Why You Should

AVOID Asking for Extensions over the next 30 days:


1) You become a worse money and time manager.


Extension seeking trains you to NOT manage your time & resources well. 


Extension seeking trains you to NOT manage your time & resources well. 


Do you remember before there were cell phones? Remember what happened when you made plans with your friends? Once they left their house, those plans were LOCKED. No texting, “I need another hour please.”


2) Your ability to keep a commitment weakens. 


Extensions that are always granted make deadlines a “suggestion”.


You get into the habit of keeping a suggested deadline only if it’s convenient. 


According to Ken Blanchard, “There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses – only results.”   Well said Ken.


3) You’ll get the same treatment back, when you can least afford it. 


Extensions open you up to everyone else’s bad behavior & requests, timely or not.


From a energetic standpoint, there is no “I can do it and not get it done back to me.” If you don’t want it or like it, don’t do it. Meeting a hard deadline is one of the best methods you have to increase your confidence in yourself. 


You know someone who lost a lot of weight and got super confident right? They think it’s the weight loss! That’s just part of it. The BIGGER part is that they showed up for themselves! They held the line. Their discipline led to result of confidence in their ability to execute a hard decision. 


Question – What are you giving yourself an extension on? Paying down debt? Growing your business? Getting a mentor or coaching? Do what you need to do. At least find a way to begin today. Ask me for help.



In Joy,




P.S. I am going to LEAK the new logos to you! I have been building a school! Actually 3 online schools!


Alpha Life Community College, Alpha Life University (Juniors & Seniors) and my baby, Alpha Life Academy (only 6 figure Alpha Women Entrepreneurs).


I’ll send an invite out on Friday! (I know if I declare it here, I won’t give myself an extension and then I’ll have to do it!) Community College is FREE. It’s my way to leave NO Alpha behind. University Juniors are only $27/mo. Hit reply and tell me if you think this is COOL 😛 I may leak some of the curriculum Friday too…



Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with. 


She is a speaker, published author and Mensa member whose coaching is recommended by the World-Famous Motivator, Les Brown, Best-Selling Love Coach Greg Baer and International Change Expert, Dr. Eldon Taylor. She can teach you to separate struggle from success. 


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