Help Me Break the TIE! It’s 39.1% to 34.8%…What do YOU think??

You know I just finished my Alpha Women Success Academy 🙂
It was AAAAAmazing.   Here’s what’s next!
1) I’m TEACHING A CLASS FOR YOU!!! – But I don’t know WHAT it is…
On Sunday, October 15th at 3 pm EST, I am giving you an awesome free class….BUT….I don’t know WHICH ONE TO TEACH.
I don’t have enough votes in to break the TIE…I asked the Academy graduates and
two classes are basically TIED!  
Which one you do YOU want?
The Alpha’s Life Success ToolKit – Basics You MUST Know for Love & Money (has 39.1%)
Get Off Your Own Brakes! How to Stop Sabotaging Your Success
Hit Reply and VOTE!
Look for the Winning Class Announcement next Wednesday!!

2) You are getting emails from me from
I will begin sending them from:  
You’ll need to whitelist that address to make sure you keep getting your good stuff! 
It’s not tricky – go here and it’ll tell you just what to do in a few steps!
If you are here AND joined the Academy, your inbox will go back to ONE email on Wednesdays and Fridays the week of our Class, Oct 15th. 🙂
In Joy,



I want to TEACH BOTH Classes! Lol! I’ll tell you which one we are doing and how it will help you as soon as YOU TELL ME WHICH ONE YOU WANT! Let me know! Thank you!


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[Self-Love] The Lesson You FORGOT from Kindergarten…


The Lesson You FORGOT from Kindergarten…

No matter where we grew up, what our culture was and what we did and didn’t have, there was a lesson that we were taught in kindergarten.

Just do your best.

I haven’t had a reason to think about “doing your best” for the majority of my adult life. I 
wrote about it recently here, noticing that “I did my best” has really become something that people say to EXC– USE their poor performance when they HAVEN’T done their best!

It’s not so simple as saying “just do your best” anymore, because as we grew up we added junk into our emotional and spiritual trunks that blocks our best efforts.

Now I’m going to tell you why you want to learn how to do your best. It is the magical shield that protects you from: guilt, worrying, regret, indecision and disappointment.

All that-in one.

I have been building the
 Alpha Woman Success Academy, at the same time that I’m finalizing my second book and finishing the first online, 8 week Alpha Success Course.

My demands on myself expanded my
 capacity soo much.

And there were times when I ran into obstacles, Alpha Definition of Obstacles: Other people not doing exactly what I want them to do, exactly when I want them to do it!

Because I have truly done my best, I can let it go easily.

This applies the same to anything you’re doing. 

When you have truly given your best, controlled what was yours to control, followed up where you need to follow up, stretched where you needed to stretch, hell, PAST where you needed to stretch…you can then release the outcome gracefully.

The outcome is going to be exactly whatever it is going to be.  That acceptance and surrender is SELF-LOVING to you. 

Know when to stop pushing.


We’ve all forgotten what we learned when we were five. We’ve told our children, if you did your best, it’s enough. It’ll be okay.

Alpha, where you did your best, it is enough.

You need help moving the blocks that you have put in your way over a lifetime, blocks that STOP you from showing up and doing your best.   

Ask me for help now. 

It truly is magical to look at an outcome that is DIFFERENT from what I wanted and planned and pushed for and feel AT PEACE WITH IT AND THEREFORE WITH ME. I really want this life balance for you. 


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[Focus Mag] Why To Give, How To Receive & The Missing Link “Asking”


Our FOCUS: Why Do I Give, How to Receive & the Missing Link “Asking”

Alphas are terrible at asking.

I don’t even have to prove that sentence. You know it’s true. You. Don’t. Ask. For. Help!

In life, it is a self fulfilling prophecy. The more that you DON’T ASK for help, the more you don’t GET help. We then use that observation to rationalize continuing not asking for help.

Today you’ll learn the cycle of giving, receiving and asking how that helps you get what you really want? Let’s do this!

      Author Unknown

“Asking for help is a sign of STRENGTH not weakness.”



Today’s TRAINING: Giving, Receiving & Asking


We have grown up in environments that have shown us that if you want something done right… See? I don’t even have to finish that thought. When you want something done right, you go do it yourself! Whether you have time to or not.

I get it. We’ve had the same experiences. When I was still brave enough or silly enough (which ever one you think fits right now) to ask people to help me when I was younger, I was constantly disappointed. So, I learned. Alphas are lone wolves.

What is interesting, is how well our general refusal to ask mirrors our incredible resistance to receiving. Alphas are very poor receivers!

Yep, you’re beginning to see that connection aren’t you? Even if you don’t ask for help, if somebody offers help TO you, you say, “It’s OK, I’ve got it.”

And now time for Tanya’s two favorite coaching words.
 Stop it!

Your ability to receive, be it compliments, assistance, money, time or instruction, tell you a great deal about your level of self-love.

When you love yourself, you can easily receive FROM other people. The more problems you have with self-love, the more difficult it is receiving from other people.

In the absence of loving yourself, you don’t trust yourself. When you don’t trust yourself, you cannot trust other people. So, you don’t trust them trying to GIVE to you.

See how it’s all so connected? But the advantage IS the interconnection. When you fix any one area, all the other ones begin to improve and your entire life gets better quickly!

If You Need Something In Life You Need To Find A Way To GIVE It

You receive back what you have given and not necessarily from the place or the person that you GAVE it to. So, if you are stressed about not having enough money, it really is true that it would help you to find a way to give some money.

If you’re stressed about not having enough time, you actually need to find a way to give away some time.

We’re going to take the time to explain tithing. Because I didn’t used to think it was a valid concept. I really thought that 1 billion years ago a religious institution figured out is a really good way to make sure that they had a constant flow of income!

My life changed when I found my own understanding of giving. Tithing is about giving away something that you find valuable and that you want more of in your life. The percentage you give is not magical, it works with 10% and with 1%.

Once you actually realize that the amount you’re giving DOES connect to the amount you’re receiving, you quickly start WANTING to give more. All the wealthy people I know are GENEROUS!

So let’s say you have $4,000 a month of income to live from. Giving away 10% of that amount may be hard if you’re on a really tight budget. Yet in general, having 90% of your income leaves most of us still good.

Tithing (or giving) incorrectly is when you give the 10% only because you want something back or think you “have to” or you focus on and obsess aboutthe 10%.

When you do giving correctly, you give away a portion in celebration of how much you HAVE.
 Basically, you are focusing on the 90% you keeprather than the 10% or 2% that you are giving away.

What you focus on expands. If you focus on the 90% you keep, THAT portion expands. If you focus on whatever percentage you are “losing” or “removing”, the losing or removing expands. Huge for me when I figured this out!

My most valuable currency is my time. (I would value argue that is true for everyone else too.) So my primary giving vehicle is my time.

All of This Explains Why the Entire Cycle of Receiving BEGINS With Giving

What you give, you already HAVE and you ARE. The law is you get what you are and not what you want. What you give, you have extra of. By the Law of Attraction, giving IS the beginning of the cycle for getting.

Here’s a tricky bit. For the giving to “work”, it must be giving from the heart without fear and without seeking direct compensation.
 I am perfectly aware that all of my giving will compensate me.

I do not have to pretend that is not the case, in fact I love that that is the case! What I’m not doing, is I’m not looking for the person that I’m handing something to, to turn around and hand me something else back!

And the giving must be without a fear-based motive.
 This is one that trips up a lot of Alphas.

Lots of
 Alphas over give, which is giving in order to maintain or obtain control.
 When you are an over-giver, you attract victim like people, who you believe will stay with you and love you because of your giving.

Just think of any of those stereo typical grandmothers, were you come to their house and they overfeed you. And they do EVERYTHING for you but chew!. And they work their hands to the bone.  It’s actually a control thing and you feel guilty not grateful.

That is their way of bartering and buying and securing love.  They were taught that IS love, so I do not fault that.  However, it is in fact giving out of the fear that if I DO NOT smother you and wow you and care for and fix everything for you, you won’t love me the same.

When you give from your heart, that is the giving that begins the cycle that ends in you receiving what you want!
 That means you’re giving without the requirement of direct compensation, not giving to control or to engineer what flows from your giving.

Asking Plays the Magical Role In All Of This!

Asking gives the green light for people to give to you. It creates a container and expectation that you will receive, which activates the Law of Expectation. The Bible is very clear about this. It used command language. It is Ask and you SHALL receive. Very important.

How often you’re asking for help should not be so wildly disproportionate to how often YOU are doing the giving. That is a recent realization on my part.

If they ARE crazily out of balance (and I know they are, mine were too) you have found a very easy place to unlock and attract abundance into your life.

When you shut down other people’s efforts to give to you, you block the cycle of receiving. What you are doing to them, is then done to you. Asking and giving are the twin yoked horses that drive getting.

Make time to really do the Practical Tip below today!

Tanya Recommends:

I am so excited to share
 The Luxury Love Rejuvenation Retreat on October 4-8th, 2017, hosted by my wonderful new friend, Camille Sheppard-Parrish, who is the author of Successful Women Date Differently and the Founder of Get Mr. Right University and Instructor in the Academy!

I know this is going to be an awesome, energy lifting live event you want to go to if this is up for you!

She will help you stop settling for mediocrity in your relationships and attract your Mr. Right for 2018. Then what’s holding you back from getting the love you deserve?

The authentic life and love you really want is waiting for you to open up and try something different…Stop waiting. Don’t keep shutting out the love you desire!

Oh, and she put it at a freakin’ sexy resort – Virginia Beach, Oceanfront Hilton Hotel

If you want in, because you came through me, you can BOGO (bring a friend ) for 50% off! 

She is great coach and why am I sharing this with you? She is smart enough to have ASKED! Asking, GETS. If it calls to you, check it out!


Take a look and be honest in your assessment:
How often do I ask for help? Do I wait until there is a crazy crisis to ask? Do I only ask out of anger?

Do I give without expectation of direct compensation from the person or place I gave to? Do I give to engineer or control?

Am I specifically not giving in the areas that I most want to receive?



Asking, giving and receiving are all pieces of a circle, like a wheel. If you cut out any piece, it’s not whole anymore. Not round. If you overinflate one area, it (your life) won’t “roll” smoothly.

There was a phase where we are all about getting. Then we uplevel and we focus on giving. The last phase is one of balance, where we are getting, giving and ASKING out of love and confident expectation of being generally provided for.
Where are you in the cycle?


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[Self-Love] Are You Celebrating Your “Starts”?


[Self-Love] Are You Celebrating Your “Starts”?

We have a habit of only celebrating once we get to the “end” of something.
We celebrate the graduations from school. We celebrate retirement. We celebrate the wedding, the end of the courtship.

We celebrate the new house and the new car.

But these events are fleeting.  Most brides will tell you that in hindsight they don’t remember most of their wedding day and are puzzled as to why they spent $15,000 for that…

Where you REALLY want to start adding in celebrations is celebrating your BEGINNINGS!

I just began the
Alpha Women Success Academy online. It launched and went live yesterday 🙂

Old me would’ve woken up thinking about the 32 things that I NEEDED to be doing today and the book that’s due to the publisher shortly…(okay, 3 days from now.) 

I made myself lay in bed for a few extra minutes and enjoy that I had CREATED what I had IMAGINED. It’s real and live and serving Alphas for free.

I was celebrating the beginning!  The Academy is a 10 day event, so it’s really easy to think, ‘I’ll have that chocolate and hot bubble bath on the night of the 10th day.’ 

That’s not self-loving. You are punishing yourself for not being “done yet.” It is MORE important that you boost your spirits and energy for the journey rather than the destination. 

I want you to look around and see whatever you’ve just started. And… Celebrate!

Did you just start a book? Did you just start a job search? Did you just start your weight loss & life changes? New relationship? Celebrate now. Do not make your happiness contingent upon future outcomes that you cannot totally control. 

You’ve begun. You’re in motion. That is worth at least a small piece of chocolate!

My celebration will be the new sheet set that I bought and I’ve been saving. New sheets go on the bed tonight for Day 1!

Pull your attention away from the “more that you still have to do”. Look back at what you’ve accomplished to be where you are right now. It’s pretty freaking amazing!

Go Celebrate Alpha!


If you’re not in the Academy yet, get in there!  And it is really a creation of love that I want to share with you.


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[Success] Powerful Businesswomen Do NOT ________________

Powerful Businesswomen Do NOT _________

Rush. Powerful women don’t rush.

Why? Because they’ve built businesses that work, relationships that actually give back to them AND they make time for the healthy body they want. They look good!

Are you rushing? Worrying?
 Still trying to squeeze it ALL into one day and running out of hours to work on your own dream? Your mission?

Here’s a secret – powerful, happy women don’t have to rush and powerful happy women aren’t born that way – they were coached!

Now you can start getting what they have and the only investment is your time. $0.


It’s my gift to you,
 because I’m the founder and Leader of the online
 Alpha Woman Success Academy.

I and the other Instructors will show you how to DO those things that will get you back on track to a balanced life by creating the success that you want.

Want to know how to write Facebook ads? In the Academy.

Can’t figure out why you can do everything but lose weight? In the Academy.

Roomate marriage
? Want to date without settling?

Looking for the way to Peak Performance?

Need to close more sales maybe?…
 Get ALL that in the Success Academy HERE. 

Rush somewhere else… Don’t rush pass this. Because it’s just for YOU. It’s for Alpha women who want more out of life with less struggle.


Powerful business women don’t rush because all areas of their life are working and in balance. THAT is a learned skill. Join me in the Alpha Women Success Academy to bring that balance into your Relationships, Money and Life’s Purpose.

This is what I have been working focused, head down, ears back to build and it’s ready. The Academy OPENS Thursday, Sept 21st at 7 am EST. If you don’t sign in, you won’t see the 30 min video interviews and get some of the very useful gifts. My Instructors were very generous, several gave their entire book vs. a few chapters for instance.
This is my best one YET! The Turning Point Summit  –> Self-Love Blueprint –> Alpha Women Success Academy 🙂 

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[Presence] Rushing is NOT Powerful

Rushing is NOT Powerful

I was sitting in my co-work place and saw a woman beautifully dressed, that had an aura of “I’ve got this” about her. She rushed by in her heels.

A bit later she sped by again. Click. Click. Click. And then later again. On the fourth pass, I stopped this stranger and told her that people wait for the powerful, the wealthy and the beautiful.

She paused, lit up and thanked me profusely. She was an Alpha and she got it right away. Later, walking by with presence she threw me a pleased smile.

If you can, recall any scene where a stunning woman is walking, is she rushing? NOPE. Strolling or sauntering. Maybe walking purposefully but not RUSHING.

The energy of RUSHING is FEAR & LACK.


The powerful have the luxury of time and choice and they use it to accommodate their schedules and preferences.

When I want to feel MORE wealthy, more beautiful, more desired or in demand – I don’t speed up…I SLOW DOWN.

Marilyn Monroe didn’t rush. I doubt Oprah rushes anymore. Jackie Kennedy Onassis, wife of a President and then billionaire shipping magnate? Nope.

What about if I’m on a deadline?

Then you P.U.S.H. ©2016, but you don’t rush.

the little things

the WHY

the Goal

Your Intuition

Rushing is NOT powerful.
We most often rush because we aren’t PLANNING well enough.

What would you have to do to set yourself up for success next week WITHOUT rushing? 

Are you WILLING to do that?
Hit Reply & Let me know!



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[Focus Mag] Knowing & Believing- Why You Don’t ACT On What You KNOW



There is a HUGE difference between believing and knowing.

I do find many teachers use the words interchangeably. Now my teaching is no longer Knowing vs. Believing, but “What part of you is doing the KNOWING?” 

Today is a deep teaching, and not for the faint of heart (pun totally intended). If you don’t get this, no worries. If you WANT to and need help, just email me. This is jet fuel for your life.

Let’s do some good work 🙂


      Author Unknown

I can only tell you the truth, I can’t make you believe it.



Today’s TRAINING: Why You Don’t Act On What You Know

Knowing vs. Believing

There is a difference between believing and knowing.

Many teachers use the words in different ways, often with knowing being superior to believing. I use it the other way around. Here’s my teaching.

Knowing of the Head:

This is your mind’s knowledge and the ego is involved. Think, you “know math” or “know how to cook.”

Knowing of the Heart = Believing:
 (can also be called wisdom, inspiration, intuition or faith)

The Heart is connected to Source and is your link to your higher self. Think, you “believe children are innocent” or “believe sunsets are beautiful.”

The “Battle” Is For The Free Agent, The Subconscious.

The subconscious is the home of EXECUTION, where all of your programming lives. It carries out it’s Commander’s orders without question. It follows patterns and runs things on a continuous loop. It does not KNOW anything or BELIEVE anything, so it can EXECUTE anything, good or bad, fearlessly. Think, perfect soldier.

There is only knowing. Either the mind knows or the heart knows, but the EFFECT of those knowings are vastly different!

When the heart knows, the effect is Believing and it leads to receiving.

When the mind knows, the effect is controlling or questioning, doubting and seeking evidence. These all lead to taking and controlling but NOT receiving.

When your subconscious is aligned with what your heart knows, you act in full faith and without crippling fear.
 You act out of love and are perceived as inspired.

When your subconscious is taking it’s directions from your mind, it requires evidence and proof continually so it starts, stops, doubts, wonders, starts again, stops again.


Hearts Cannot Lie (But Your Subconscious Kinda Can!)

I have a friendly debate with a friend of mine about the heart, subconscious and the mind. He says that the heart can lie. I think it’s a wording issue. Today, I am finally able to bring through what MY heart knows of this matter.

The heart is connected to Source energy and therefore cannot lie. The heart knows what it knows – the question is can you allow what your heart knows? When you are allowing what your heart knows, you are believing.

Lots of ancient texts will use the word “heart” for the word “subconscious”, watch out for that. For example, the biblical quote that ‘out of your heart, comes the issues of your life.’  That is saying, out of your programming come your life’s events. Clearer now.

The subconscious accepts all programming.
 If it is slaved to the mind, then it will accept, allow and execute programming that is consistent with fear. This subconscious would be the servant of the ego, which leads it to replicate, support and ignore lies and fear the truth (exposure).  

“I Know It With My Head, But Don’t Believe It Yet…”

Very common issue I hear when I’m coaching Alphas is: I know something with my head, but I just can’t get it into my heart. I know it but I don’t believe it yet. 

Here is the truth even though it’s a little harder to understand. That statement is not accurate. Why?

You are not trying to get knowledge down from your mind into your heart.
 The heart is connected to Source energy, all that is. It actually already HAS all the knowledge that you’re seeking.

You are actually trying to get heart knowledge UP from your heart, into your head! The head acts like a fairly aggressive sentry, blocking access to the subconscious so it can maintain it’s dictatorship.  IF the head agrees, it just unlocks the door and passes the programming on down. Bam, it gets executed.

If the head disagrees, it makes it very, very hard for you to rewrite the program
 it has the subconscious running.

We have all been trying to do this the wrong way! (Me included. I discovered this less than 2 years ago!)

What If Your HEART Hel
d All The Answers?

Play with this idea – imagine that your heart actually has access to whatever answer it is you’re seeking.

 that were true, you wouldn’t be trying to convince your heart of anything! You would actually be attempting to allow in what the heart already knows, instead of trying to convince the heart of something that YOU know. Instead of PUSHING, you’d be PULLING.

Haven’t you always read those annoying clichés about, everything you need is already inside of you??

Well fudge, that was true. 

Think for a moment, there are times in your life where you have just known things that you just couldn’t KNOW. That was a moment when you tapped into your heart’s knowledge. Basically, your heart has DSL to infinite wisdom and your mind has dial up with a 1200 baud modem. 

Believing Is About RECEIVING From Your Heart

Believing is about relaxing into the idea that you don’t have to fight to get the answer. It’s about trusting that if your heart knows something is so, you don’t actually need to see evidence of it to safely agree with it.

I love Dr. Wayne Dyer. And he taught so clearly in his book, “You’ll See It When You Believe It.”  Again, this great teacher noticed that we had it backwards!

It is your mind that says, I’ll believe it when (after) I see it. But the laws of creation and energy and dominion, say, you’ll see it once (after) you have first believed it. By your faith it is done unto you.

I am telling you today that the believing that you are to be doing is the allowing/receiving of the information that your heart already has access to

When I go to write these trainings for you, in the beginning I thought of myself as creating them. That was harder. I now understand that I more accurately transcribe them, because I receive them from my heart. Waaayyy easier.

Alphas struggle with control issues because we really want to “KNOW” how to do it, when to do it and why to do it. That desire for control makes accessing your heart’s knowledge difficult because you need to be in a RECEIVING mode to “get” from your heart. It gives, you receive.

It’s like Alphas go to the pump to get water, but we don’t bring a bucket! We come to the pump and we stare at it and simply demand and command water but we aren’t prepared to receive it! 

Can you “open your heart” to receive your heart’s knowing without the world’s evidence?

All that which we are now seeing, came from nothing which is seen. 

Deep? Yes. Important? Immensely. 

When you know with your heart – you are believing.
 That believing requires no evidence, because it’s source is Infinite wisdom. That believing is the basis of faith. 

(There simply is nothing better than the moment where I stop resisting being up late and let myself sink into a place of gratitude to be receiving what I’msupposed to teach. When I drop control, I can receive and “allow” in a discovery to share.)

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Not getting anything to share this company with you. This is who I use and I feel SAFE!
When did I get FIRST get them? Oh, about 3 weeks after my laptop and ipad were stolen in Mexico.
Let’s not have that be you. There are probably a lot of folks in the path of the hurricanes that did NOT have a laptop backup. I only had to lose a short book I’d written and family photos ONCE to learn!
Carbonite is usually $60/year and gives unlimited cloud storage for one computer. It backs up automatically, continuously. Best part? You can get your files back if lost AND if you are traveling and need something from your laptop, you can get at the files then too!
I used it to transfer EVERY piece of data (120 GB) to my brand new empty laptop!
Nuff said. If you are still reading this, secure your computer.
P.S. About 2 weeks before my stuff was stolen I kept noticing their ads and sadly thought it was a little pricey! After all, I had my files on my laptop AND ipad, so THAT was alright…HA!




The easiest way to tell what you believe is the watch what you DO. You invariably behave consistent with what you BELIEVE, not what you KNOW (with your head). Teenagers KNOW drinking and driving is dangerous but do they believe that? Clearly, they do NOT. Check yourself. Do you know X or BELIEVE X? Just telling yourself the truth about what you discover puts you on the right path.



When your heart and mind agree, I think of it as a different interpretation of the bible saying, “where two of YOU agree”. Where the two of you, heart AND mind agree, it is done because at that point there is no longer any resistance. Some folks call that alignment. 

It is not a daily experience but you can improve your life greatly by always seeking to tell yourself the truth about where your mind is on an issue and where you heart is. When they are divided, the “house cannot stand.” If you spent one month, 30 days, opening to receive your heart’s knowing on something before trying to undertake actions on it, you would find that when you acted, it was much easier.

Wow Did You Hear?


An Alpha in Alpha Group Coaching just got a non-holiday, personal bonus, 8X the size of her Christmas bonus because she is FINALLY showing up confident and sharing what she knows
She is getting paid to be MORE of who she IS.
Go Alpha!

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[Truth] Sharing A Miracle, Need A Favor…


Sharing A Miracle, Need A Favor…


Today I’m sharing a story that shows how I use exactly what I TEACH YOU to handle problems and the Miracle that just arrived…

If you’ve been watching, I’m building my 3rd Global Event (It may be how you found me originally!). This one is for Alphas of course! So it means I’m spinning an awful lot of plates right now.

wGot the book, The Alphas Guide to Life, to the editor. Working on the design of an 8 week Online course for Alphas and building the free “Alpha Women Success Academy: How to Get Your Money, Your Man and Your Mission. NOW.”


I pushed to get everything tested and working from a tech side for the Academy before anyone arrived. Same way you hurry to get house clean before the guests get there! This morning a friend wrote me that one of my links to join the Academy, WASN’T WORKING.

First, I noticed that I didn’t panic, blame or get angry. I had 4 devices open to try to repeat the error. My assistant had her devices open. With great hoopla, I finally saw it fail. Called GoDaddy (awesome company!) for support to learn it was the other large company, LeadPages (also good).

And…Nothing. Crickets. No one could get it to repeat so they couldn’t “fix” it.

What did I do?
 After 3 hours noticed that doing anything else would be STRUGGLING and I teach the way to SUCCESS is SURRENDER. I did all I could so I…went for a 2 mile walk.

I walked and prayed and used my best affirmations. I knew the glitch was about me or FOR ME somehow (notice, no blaming). I began to feel better and better. I knew I was loved and guided and I asked my guardian angel to send me a sign please.

The Universe is happy to send you signs and they will use what YOU would view as a sign to communicate with you.

I looked down just as I asked and saw something in the dirt on the side of the road. Something blue…and green. I picked up two beads. Blue and green are my business colors and blended together they make TEAL my new FAVORITE color.

Before I could rejoice, I felt I should look again.  Covering almost 10 feet, I picked up the scattered pieces of a bracelet rosary! With the crucifix!

God still gives signs. Miracles still happen and yes, you can ASK for one. Some would count this as a “small” miracle but miracles do not have a SIZE.

What was I affirming before my miracle?
  • That I was doing all that I knew to do.
  • Willing to do whatever was necessary.
  • And that I was asking for guidance and would give immediate obedience to whatever I was shown to do…therefore, since I’d covered the process, the outcome could be safely SURRENDERED.

That is EXACTLY what I taught in The Success Jump Start Kit that is an immediate gift when you join the Alpha Academy online event.


I have a favor to ask. The favor is my 2nd miracle. I need to send traffic to my site to test that it’s working and that folks can get registered and get the Success Kit immediately BEFORE my instructors send more traffic and maybe hit that glitch (I may have lost some folks today).

If you want to see what I’m up to, get The Success Kit and help me out by testing it – I would be grateful. Just click a photo.

These Instructors and the content has me in awe. The gifts are generous. I just feel blessed to be building this for you.
please send me the info with a screenshot!!! I appreciate it.


P.S. It is possible the glitch was to get me to this rosary. If so, then all is well and there is nothing TO fix! 

I make jewelry and I WILL repair the rosary God sent me! 



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[Truth] Telling Your Truths…Prepare to Begin a 4 Phase Process of PAIN!

[Truth] Telling Your Truths…Prepare to Begin a 4 Phase Process of PAIN!
What? You KNOW I tell the truth. I have an Alpha in Part 4 right now. It’s a part no one expects and it flattens most Alphas who are new to telling their truth.  Ready?

Phase 1:

Hard. Especially where the “truth” you are seeing involves YOU losing something you have or NOT getting something you want. Many, many folks do not ever get past this phase. Alphas are tough, we can see the truth (especially if you have a high-energy, loving, slightly mouthy black woman helping you).



Phase 2:

Umm harder. We have to tell the truth to OURSELVES first. Did you know that we lie to ourselves way more than anyone else? AND if you lie to yourself, you can’t be trusted to tell the truth others. Apply this to those around you. If you see BIG, SHINY truths that they are playing “hide-n-seek” with and never FINDING they are lying to themselves.

Most Alphas are pretty suck here. You either only tell the truth in ANGER (not good) or after you’ve been hurt (also not good) or you keep quiet and squish the truth inside. Now ask me why you are depressed, carrying extra pounds, can’t make money and don’t feel attractive? Bingo.

Phase 3:

Scary! So many Alphas that CAN see the truth and tell themselves – yep, that’s how it is… then can’t take the next right step. To leave that job, end that relationship, stop driving by the damn donut place, talk to the creditor you are avoiding. Acting consistent with the truth you KNOW means you BELIEVE IT and it is a huge clue to character.

Circumstances do not make the man, they only REVEAL him to HIMSELF
— Epictetus, Greek Philosopher 100 AD
To believe in something and not live it, is dishonest —-Mahatma Gandhi

Phase 4:

Crazily Hard. No one knows this but if you run the gauntlet of Phases 1-3 you are in a for a treat! A full-frontal assault from your Ego who is royally miffed about all this “truthing.”  Truth is a synonym for love, so…that is panic time in Ego world. It will come at you from every angle:
  • Look what you lost – lack
  • You spoke too late – timing
  • You said too much – judgment
  • You shouldn’t have listened to whoever told you to tell the truth (i.e. Alpha Women Coaches)
  • You were doing just fine and look at this unnecessary mess – fatigue
  • You’ll never get back what you just threw away by doing that – fear
In short, it will do everything it can to put you into 3 corners of the Alpha Square of Doom – Resenting, Resisting and Regretting.
Ready for the solution? Do NOT fight your head. It’s like trying to convince a drunk they are NOT drunk. The more you fight the more THEY fight. I want you to agree and keep repeating, I have a choice and I choose truth. If truth brings me trouble, so be it.

Isn’t this what you want your kids to do?
Do the right thing and count the consequences later.

Isn’t this what we need our world leaders to do?
Choose truth and if truth brings trouble, SO BE IT.
Set the example. You can and will survive Phase 4 and when you do it often enough, you cripple the ego’s strength.

P.S. To my Alpha in Spain right now, I love you. You are in Phase 4. You chose TRUTH. If truth brings you trouble, we will kick troubles ASS together! Hold the line to want what you want and keep telling the truth and acting on it until it’s part of your character. A person IS what she constantly DOES.

Advanced Lesson – I have learned not to RESIST choosing truth or REGRET AFTER I chose truth. I’m now only worried if I didn’t! Truth IS protected by the Universe.


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[Mindfulness] What You Can Learn From Fake Eyelashes…


What You Can Learn from Fake Eyelashes…

I have kind of watched out of the corner of my eye (hehe) the new trend of women getting fake eyelashes. I have no clue if it started with black women, but I do see them used there quite a bit.

I knew it had hit mainstream when my StepMom showed up with them for a family wedding. And you know what? She looked awesome!

So I noticed that my tiny “judgy” voice was going and told it to lean back.
Much like hair extensions, these things make some women feel more beautiful. My worry is when you HAVE to have them to feel beautiful and when little girls learn that their hair, nails, butt, eyelashes, breasts and whatever else aren’t “good enough” as God made them and should to be augmented.

I had lashes once a few years ago, when I was hosting an internet Tv show for National Small Business week. Someone owed me and I received $300 movie star lashes as barter! Hand applied, mink and done by the lady in Atlanta who does the news anchors. Guilty secret? I loved them. I just felt GLAMOROUS. Marilyn Monroe-y. And they DID make me prettier and saved me some prep time in make-up on set.

Fast forward to last week. Getting ready to shoot 20+ interviews for the upcoming Alpha Women Success Academy. (Oh, you are invited of course!) I was in the chair getting my eyebrows done and suddenly my intuition said go for the lashes!

I did it. First, $25 lashes are WAAAY different from $300 lashes. And someone glue-ing near your eye is just plain SCARY. (I used my yoga breathing.) But… the effect…hello black Marilyn, I missed you!
Where does the mindfulness come in? To keep these suckers on, you have to become MINDFUL. How I sleep, how I wash my face, moisturize and especially remove the make-up I’m layering on for filming.

Instead of RESISTING the extra work, I am enjoying it!
Million dollar tip: I chose to change my MIND about it.  I am taking more time at night and in the morning with my face. I carefully wash it and anoint it with goodies like Vitamin C and sunscreen. I feel INDULGENT taking this extra time on me FOR ME.  

I didn’t need a reason to take better care of me… or DID I?

Mindfulness brings love and patience and Source into whatever you are doing.
You can be mindful doing laundry, cutting grass (one of my favorite times to be with “me”), applying lotion or driving.

Mindfulness is just being 100% with you.

I am prettier in these lashes because my energy is heightened in them, in part because they have me investing more time IN ME. What you focus on and pay full attention to is VALUABLE.

What can you do this weekend MINDFULLY? Let me know if you need my help.

Eyelashes also fall into my “crutches” category because I am NOT a make-up girl. (If I told you how old my foundation was, you’d call the EPA..) It means I don’t have to try to cake on mascara. My normal make up is lipstick and eyeliner and neaten eyebrows. With lashes, I don’t even need the eyeliner!

Take 3 Mins and Enjoy a video of me teaching “Mindful Lotioning”!



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