[Alphas] You Can’t Hurry ______ (Square of) Life – #3 Love
The 4 Corners of Life: Health, Wealth, Love and Mission. Let’s Build your Love Corner today.
This is the corner Alphas like to leave for LAST. If I had a dollar for every time an Alpha told me, she “just needed to get to X money goal or Y health goal and THEN she could make time to focus on Love.”
I’m calling you Alphas out. You will just keep building your goals bigger and bigger to avoid this one. This corner is always weak for us because Alphas have trust issues and love requires trust in self and others.
Perfecting Your Love Corner Brings You New Skills
When you are doing WELL in the Love Corner here is what you can do:
1) Compassion. Hold space for a person you love while they hit THEIR lesson, get triggered and misbehave WITHOUT you running or punishing them and Commitment – DONE WHILE simultaneously continuing to do your OWN lessons.
2) Forbearance. Not insist you are right, even when you truly ARE CORRECT, if that insistence causes more disharmony than not (i.e., you’d rather be Happy than Right)
3) Truth. Rigorous with yourself and forgiving with others. You never look on truth and ignore, minimize or “not” see it. You act, even when it will hurt you or another and before you “count the cost” of acting.
4) Help. You ask for it. You receive it. You allow it. You offer it less (Alphas are wired to the masculine and overgive to control things). You learn how important it is that others feel they ARE WELCOME to help you and that you VALUE their help. Let someone else feel like a Badass once in awhile Alpha.
5) Peacefulness. You stop struggling for everything and noticing that the things that you really want are coming more easily with less effort. That epiphany opens up your life to feeling peaceful for the first time.
These new and stronger traits will enhance your love for you and will bring or deepen the love you are receiving from others. Remember the secret to life from last week? How you feel about love in your life BEFORE it arrives will determine if or how it does.
When you feel the 1-5 consistently, epic love will find you like it did me.
Buzzwords today? Vulnerability & Authenticity
You do not need a book or course in Vulnerability. Just stop f@#%ing lying to yourself and love will work better.
You cannot keep putting your need for love behind your kids, your business and your friends and have a good life. You cannot keep pretending the faux love your receive is enough. You are DYING, you are running out of time to have what you want. You must do it now.
If you don’t know how to love you, no one else does EITHER.
“Perhaps we should love ourselves so fiercely, that when others see us they know exactly how it should be done. ” Rudy Francisco
Begin to Build your Love Alpha. I’ve got you.
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Tanya Stewart is “The Alpha Woman Coach” and began coaching strong women as a Divorce lawyer in her own high conflict law firm 20 years ago. She understands how Alpha women are wired and using her Master’s level Metaphysics background and Advanced Clinical Certification in Hypnotherapy, she brings rapid change to people she works with.
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