[Relationships] Why You REALLY Want to Be Wrong…

3 Steps to Understanding Why:

1 – Your ego always wants to be RIGHT so you are kept SAFE. Right = Safe

2 – New things are a danger to SAFETY, so you’ll be MADE to feel wrong if you approach them, as a deterrent.

3 – If you aren’t happy in any area, you’ll need to do something new, which is “dangerous” and will feel WRONG to your head.

Your ego dictates your beliefs so thoroughly that you stop noticing it doing its dirty work.  Your head puts a discomfort barrier between you and what you NEED to do.

Relationships Require Risk to Generate Growth

In relationships, you are always being called to the next higher version of yourself. To reach this next version, you need to uplevel ‘aka’ learn the next new lesson.

Your ego will resist this because a) it’s new and therefore unknown and unsafe and b) growth is about love and egos are fueled by fear. 

If you got that, you should now WANT to be made wrong.

I’ve often begun a coaching call with these words:

“There is something you THINK you are RIGHT about,

that you are WRONG about and

you need to be WILLING to be made wrong

so you can move the block you don’t know you have

to get what you really want.”

(Read that again, it’s that important)

Wrong = New = Dangerous -> Avoided

It is in your discomfort and willingness to be wrong that will break you free to your next highest level.

Otherwise, as long as you continue to be RIGHT, you stay put.

To love requires you to do something new, something uncomfortable and something therefore unsafe. Your ego will make you WRONG to keep you from doing any of that.

The hardest (and most loving) things I do as a coach is stand still and call you to the truth. I drop truth like grand pianos and I stand with you while it hits. If you stop running and really look into the areas that you think are just fine, you’ll often see a veneer covering up wounds.

Ask me to do this for you now…

In Joy,