[Tool] Want My Favorite 2 Coaching Words?
Want My Favorite 2 Coaching Words?
2 powerful coaching words. Stop it.
At what point did you START accepting that your mind could make choices that YOU could not countermand, override, or say no to?
I listen to people tell me a story about some painful, fear based thing they’re doing and I cannot help but interrupt (I’ve said this to 4 different people this week alone) and say… Stop it. And I can feel them staring at me (through the phone) like a crazy person.
Please take a moment to consider, when did the idea of being unable to completely control YOUR OWN BEHAVIOR become normal and acceptable to you?
Oddly enough, we tell children to “stop it” all the time and fully expect them to be able to do so.
Somewhere in grade school that expectation fades. And it’s long gone by high school!
Because EVERYBODY tells me, I can’t look at myself and tell myself to just “stop” doing something…and then stop.
This is about your expectations (read more about expectations here). You aren’t expecting to be able to control yourself, you are only “hoping” that you can. You’re thinking right now, fudge, when I tell myself to stop, I don’t really listen to me. (That’s not okay.)
Your mind is working much like a dog that knows you will call it seven times, so it doesn’t even think of obeying and coming that first time!
You can build a new habit by doing the skill you need in easier areas and later transferring it.
If you are done feeling crazy because you can’t “Stop It”, let me know. I can help. I can show you how to STOP IT.